FIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN YOU ARE JEALOUS

 

FIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN YOU ARE JEALOUS

They say that the jealous person does not suffer from what they see, but from what they imagine. You may be skewing reality out of fear of losing your partner, and your jealousy may be unjustified.

In that case, it is advisable to try to separate them as necessary. However, it is not always necessary to assume that jealousy must be taken away and forgotten.

Sometimes jealousy works as a kind of alarm because they warn that something is not working well between you (routine, disinterest, fatigue ...) and precisely for that reason, a third person is sneaking into your space.

Five things you should NOT do when you are jealous

In this other case, it is necessary that you determine together the steps to follow, whenever you want to save the relationship.

Whatever your situation, here are five things you shouldn't do when you're feeling jealous.

Be careful, it is very easy to fall into them!

1. Do not accuse your partner

Don't accuse her or take uncertain things for granted, or she'll get defensive. Jealousy is a subject that must be treated with delicacy and sweetness.

In addition, there are people who hate that their confidence is questioned and more if they feel that they are not giving reasons.

Clarify with your partner what reasons you have to feel jealous. Speak honestly, do not hide anything, no matter how absurd it may seem.

Saying it out loud will help you, too, to notice new nuances.

Communication is the key!

 

2. Do not prohibit

You do not want your partner to be with you out of obligation or to feel frustrated or limited by you. That will make him less and less want to be with you.

Nobody likes to have freedoms taken away from us. Everything is negotiable, and you can talk about it to reach an agreement.

Forbidding him something is a way of threatening to take away your love if he does: and that is blackmail!

3. Do not fall into the temptation to secretly look at his mobile phone, computer ...

If you do, you lose your reason.

The end does not justify the means. In any case, it is better that, eventually (do not do it custom), ask your partner to show you something you need to see to be calmer (a message, for example).

If you don't want to, it's your right, and that doesn't mean you have something to hide.

We all need our privacy (it is positive that you do not merge your spaces) and we feel uncomfortable if someone invades it.

Trust is the key!

 

4. Do not think badly or look for five feet to the cat

When in doubt, ask them openly. On the other hand, ask yourself: do you do things similar to those you reject in your partner? Do you consider yourself unfaithful for it?

Think that she is not alone in the world: it is normal for her to relate, and you do too.

Maybe if you do it, you don't give it importance and you see it as normal, but if it does, it bothers you.

Do unto others the way you want them to do back to you!

 

5. Do not act out of spite

Think twice before reacting by doing something like “revenge” to make your partner jealous, just like you.

At that point, you may feel relieved, but it can hurt you both in the long run.

In this way you only divert the focus of attention from the problem and enlarge it: instead of talking about it and maturing it, you cause more confusion and more reasons to distance yourself.

Think before you do or speak

In short, try to think before doing or speaking! Jealousy is totally emotional and irrational; it comes from our deepest and most instinctive part.

In reality, they are adaptive: they prevent infidelity from occurring, keeping the partner by our side, and ensuring the reproduction of our genes. But we no longer live in caves!

We have to try to put a bit of head and, even if we feel threatened, try to put aside the heat to be able to dialogue and act sensibly.

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